Part of counseling involves having to empathize. The best way to express empathy is by our life stories. We may not self disclose and share all of our life stories but we can understand because we may have been through it. 

We work hard to master skills so we can teach them. Our goal is to eventually help you to learn new skills as well. Skills that will help you in your daily life and overall personal growth. Trust the process. 

As counselors and life coaches we are very observant. Some of it is in our nature and some of it is taught as part of our profession. It is something we must do in order to have a greater understanding of our clients and how to help our clients. Don't be afraid of our eye to eye contact.